Whack Wednesday: The Word "Fat"

Hey everyone hope your having a good today, today is my day off..so I'm feeling Great! I'm sorry it took so long to post but emotionally I just had a lot going on but I can't let that stop this, something I love to do, sooooo I'm back starting this week where I left off which is Whack Wednesday! Now the word "FAT" is a word that is up for debate even with plus size women of weather the word is offensive or not. Some women have been using the word as a since of ownership, like I'm calling myself fat so you can't call me fat or if you call me fat it won't hurt as much because I already know or said this about myself, idk. Some women just don't give a f#@%! If they are called fat or if they call someone else fat. These women feel so what ...where fat, get over it! I have seen a lot of back in forth of some finding it hurtful, and some that could care less. For me personally I find this word Super Hurtful , If someone calls me fat it honestly take my confidence down a couple of notches. Why you ask? because this word was never, ever used by someone to make me feel good about myself. Calling someone FAT is not saying "oooohhh your so pretty" the majority of the time it is being use to make fun (unless you really into the thickness but even then its super creepy).I was talked about when I was younger and it took me until after high school to feel confident in my size and work my curves Even grown ass people like my family members who have No Chill!! Like to throw this word at me still (not always to be mean) but when someone uses that word towards me or I see someone being hurt by that word, especially the younger kids, it brings me back to those people in my school days who called me fat or made fun of me for being a big girl. Now with my friend I use to jokingly use the word but only with me and her about me and her but I knew not to call another person fat because that would be hurtful. For the women who are OK with the word I think that is great as long as deep down inside you are really ok with it but if your really not ok with don't call yourself fat, don't make fun of yourself to make others happy, F#@! Them! This doesn't just go for women but men also. I know your all tough guys but its ok if you don't like to be called names. The sad thing is that we (plus size women and men) call each other names. What is up with that?? I don't know if this is for every person but I think is a defense mechanism. I think anyone big or not who talks about another person has some since of insecurity about themselves. Young or old we control what comes out of our mouths this all takes time, growth and awareness to break old habits (I am including myself). Even though this goes for everyone I wanna say if you are plus size and you make fun of plus size people chill out, we are suppose to support each other...stop being a bitch (excuse my French.) If somebody finds the word offensive or hurtful even if you dont just dont say it no more....So I was thinking what are non-offensive words that still express the beauty of being plus(to me)...well duh plus size is not offensive, big girl is ok, bbw, pleasantly plump, thick, Voluptuous, Sexy AF or how about just say you look nice, cute pretty, handsome, beautiful loose the "size words" all together. I cant stand "you look pretty for a big girl" I look pretty any damn way (in the words of Mrs. Tamar Braxton) GET YOUR LIFE.!" So what is your opinion on this topic??? Let me know down below and thank you so much for reading, enjoying, and sharing :)

Truth Tuesday: Just Do It

Hey, Everybody :) It is 11:42pm and I am so happy to be in my bed. Sometimes it feels like I work 24hrs a day; even though I do have day off but long story short I am currently in love with my bed. So last week was my BIRTHDAY!(July12th) I turned 29 and I have to say I really enjoyed my birthday. I ate dinner with my family and my closet friend at the Cheesecake Factory (sooooo good) and I got my nose pierced!(It hurt like hell, but it was quick :) I'm a very laid back type of chick so this was my kind of celebrating. I don't really feel too much different, I have grown so much these last couple of years but things a pretty much the same. I have learned a lot about myself and there are still  a lot of things I want to change. I am the type of person who likes to analyze, complain (sometimes) and worry about things that I cant change but also about things I can change. I come to realize (which I should have realized along time ago) that I have no reason to complain about the things I can change I just need to shut the hell up about it and change it. I cant complain about still living where I'm living but I'm not saving the money to move. I cant complain about not loosing the amount of weight I want to loose if I'm not dieting or exercising. Life can be a simple thing if we sometimes pick the simple answer. Anything you want in life you have to work hard to make it happen. At the same time the things you want may not happen over night and you cant give up or loose patients. I am the only person reasonable for my happiness and the direction I want to take my life in. If something or someone makes me un happy I have to change it. Now I have preached this to other people but never practiced it myself. I would sulk and complain and vent to who ever would listen but that didn't make a difference; I had to take action. Sometimes I wished I could find that genie in the lamp, or hit the lottery and that would fix all my problems but that's not realistic. I have to work for the things I want and intend to continue to do so. It is talking FOREVER to get the things I want but that's life and I need to have patients. In time everything will be as it should be (don't know where I go this from...I think a movie.) I AM TAKING A STAND! I am not going to complain or worry...the things that I can change, I will change....the things I cant change I will try to turn into a positive and just deal with. Now I'm going to try and go to bed...I hope this all made since and I wasn't just rambling lol....Thank you soooooo much for reading and goodnight :)

#MCM

The man is gorgeous, I don't think there is any more to say..lol. The smile, the tattoos, looks well groomed, muscles, he is tall!! my #mcm is @the6foot5giant, I appreciate you and I'm sure all the ladies do as well :) 

Madly In Love Monday: Kehlani

Ok so this Monday I want to talk about a new artist named Kehlani. I was on my instagram and ran across my friends page who posted a video of her at Kehlani's concert and I just had to find out who this young lady was that all these fans where screaming for. Lucky for me she had a You Tube page and that is where I discovered all of her amazing music including one song in particular "You Should Be Here ." (Link Below) When I tell you I am obsessed with this song......I play this song so much, it's bad ya'll lol. This is one of those songs when you going through something with the man your with/want to be with (like I am now) and just want to sing this song at the top of your lungs (badly) because it feels like she wrote it just for you (crazy, I know lol.) Sooooo you wanna know a little bit more about her....yes you do :) So her name is Kehlani Parrish she is a R&B singer from Oakland California. Her style is chill,  r&b/hip hop, her lyrics are honest.... I feel like a lot of people can relate to what she is singing about, she can dance and her voice sounds soooo good, a little raspy, soulful, I love it. She has two mix tapes under belt including Cloud 19 (2014) and You Should Be Here (2015.) This year she signed with Atlantic Records and will be rereleasing my song (lol) You Should Be Here .  She has been through a lot in her life but she made it through the storm and now she is living her dreams and sharing her music with the world and I personally am a big fan. So what you  all need to do is go check her out!.....Thank you soooooooo much for reading and I hope you are having a  magnificent Monday...(was that too much lol.)

Kehlani You Tube...Song: You Should Be Here..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9YwJiVRlR3c

Website:
http://kehlanimusic.com/ysbhtour/

Style Star Sunday: Audrey Hepburn

So this Sunday is special because it is my BIRTHDAY!!!!, today I turn 29! For this Style Star Sunday I wanted to feature one of my faaaaavvvooorrriiiittteeee actress in the world Audrey Hepburn. To me she is the epitome of Old Hollywood style, grace and class. She also was an amazingly talented actress. Some of my favorite movies include Sabrina, Breakfast At Tiffany's, and My Fair Lady. Not only did I lover her personal style, which was classic and stylish; Also lover her movie costumes, which where just legendary. I really wish I could have meet her before she passed but her legacy still lives on. She is a true beauty, a style icon and I just had to feature her on my special day.......Thank you so much for reading and I hope everyone is having an fabulous Sunday :)

Strut Your Stuff Saturday

Ok so in case you didn't know Strut Your Stuff Saturday is when I chose one girl every week that has  amazing style and is not afraid to rock her curves. This Saturday I want to feature @far_from_ordiinary. I was browsing and saw this young lady and thought wow, the way she dresses is on point. Her style is cute, sexy, fun and I love it. Down below are just a few of my favorite looks of hers and it was so hard to just pick a few because she definitely has a flare for fashion. So @far_from_ordiinary long story short I love your style, keeping rocking those curves... and thanks everyone for reading hope you have an amazing Saturday!

 

 I Need This Shirt and Those Glasses In My Life!

Looks like a cute and classy professional look!

Love the Jacket and the Skirt Fierce!

This is such a cute outfit love the sneaks

Fashion Friday: Nicki Minaj

This Friday I wanted to feature Nicki Minaj's July 2015 Cosmo Cover because she looked Flawless. Everything from her make up to her outfits were on point. She is giving you sexy, fun and a little patriotic. I especially love the sparkly gold & Silver figure hugging body suit she wears on the cover. I love when women with curves are on magazine covers, makes me proud (hut hut 1 hut hut 2 big titties big butt too). Work it Nicki!